How to change your emotional response on command

The ability to change your emotional response is the biggest differentiator between those who do well and those who struggle

How to change your emotional response on commandAre you fed up? Perhaps with politics, taxes, grumpy people or the pandemic? Usually, these feelings pass. But when you get stuck in a swirl of negative emotion, the problems of the world seem to pile on and leave you feeling spent. Perhaps this is what causes normally rational individuals to become aggressive and even…

We’re in this together: how to solve problems big and small

Perhaps it’s time to bring back porch swings and actually meet your neighbours

We’re in this together: how to solve problems big and smallThere will never be a shortage of situations that put people in conflict with one another. From our strong opinions about vaccinations to the economics that drive decision-making. From differences of opinion about in-laws (and outlaws) to parenting to crime prevention and everything in between. Who owns the problem and how it gets solved are…

Develop a winning mindset to achieve your goals

To quote a noted sage: “Do or do not. There is no try”

Develop a winning mindset to achieve your goalsIn modern society, we’ve wandered away from the thought of winning. It has become taboo. All focus has been put on ensuring that those who don’t place feel just as special for having contributed. However, this flattening of drive seems to have had some unintended consequences – diminishing confidence and persistence. And if you want…

Let 2022 be the year you show a new attitude of gratitude

Nothing good comes from whining and complaining

Let 2022 be the year you show a new attitude of gratitudeI have a Facebook friend who once posted some insights into a challenging year she was coping with. She talked about how much time she had wasted focusing on events that happened outside her physical control. At the end of a fairly long note, she concluded that being a person who refused to complain about…

Resolved: I will make this year’s resolutions work

What you focus on increases your chance of success

Resolved: I will make this year’s resolutions workMost of us have a new year resolution in mind, even if we won’t say it out loud. The trick is to make it stick. We want to accomplish something or make some improvement. Perhaps we want to lose weight, change jobs, stop consuming alcohol – or even find a life mate. One of the main…

Five little tips for surviving the Christmas holidays

Accept your limitations and honour those activities that make you feel good when you do them

If you’re struggling with the holiday season, know that you are not alone: many of us scramble with all the responsibility and the desire to get things done. The perfect gift, the perfect wrapping, the cookies, sending out cards, attending school plays, paying the bills: the list goes on and on. With all this perceived…

Trust yourself to make a leap of (informed) faith

Your skill as a decision-maker depends on your willingness to make a mistake

Trust yourself to make a leap of (informed) faithDecisions, decisions. We face them every day. Big ones, small ones and ones we’re all terrified of getting wrong. Can someone just give us the blueprint guiding us to the right decision every time? Sadly, there’s no fail-safe way to ensure that the decision you make will be the right one every time. So we should just…

Not feeling the holiday magic?

There are no perfect holidays. Accept your limitations and honour those activities that make you feel good when you do them

Not feeling the holiday magic?Not feeling it this season? Started getting stressed as soon as you saw the Christmas decorations go up the day after Halloween? I’m guessing that it’s not because you’re famous for being able to give the Grinch a run for his money. You get by most of the time without people thinking your heart is…

Conflict Coach: How to approach difficult conversations

"My wife and I are snapping at each other constantly. I need it to stop or we need to go our separate ways"

Conflict Coach: How to approach difficult conversationsFaith Wood knows how to resolve conflict. Her years in front-line law enforcement taught her how to effectively de-escalate any situation to a successful conclusion. Faith will use her knowledge of conflict management to guide you through the often stressful experiences you may encounter in your personal or professional life. Her Conflict Coach column appears…

How to shake off your Christmas stress

Remain calm. You'll make better decisions than those who are stressed

How to shake off your Christmas stressIt’s almost that time of year again – the shops are filling up, along with the roads, and people’s stress levels are increasing. Christmas is a time of tradition. Some people have huge family gatherings with relatives (lockdowns permitting) from all over the place; others prefer a quiet evening – fireplace, wine, blanket and time…
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