Taming the irrational beast called anger

When strong negative emotions kidnap the thinking brain, we become scarcely more coherent than a wild animal

Taming the irrational beast called angerYou may have seen a video recently of a man punching a fellow pedestrian who he felt took his photo without authorization. Once the video was released, the man came forward and apologized for what he called his uncharacteristic behaviour. Whether it’s a result of stress, the state of the world or a variety of…

Time to stop feeling sorry for yourself

Victim stories negatively affect us and our attitude towards others and life, yet we all carry them around

Time to stop feeling sorry for yourselfAs much as we hate to admit it, we've probably all told victim stories. We've certainly had them told to us. It's time to banish them. The victim story is the one you auto-share that alerts everyone (including yourself) that you've been wronged by someone or some unfair situation. The telling (and retelling) confirms the need to feel…

Pulling the plug on anger before it ignites real trouble

Learn how to express your feelings in more productive ways and keep an explosive temper from hijacking your life

Pulling the plug on anger before it ignites real troubleAnger doesn't have to hijack your life. Anger is a natural emotion that helps protect us from real (or imagined) attacks against our physical or emotional well-being. When used appropriately, anger can motivate us to achieve goals we would otherwise be too afraid or lazy to pursue. In this way, anger may not be a big…

Seven steps to overcoming your frustration

Life is all about choices so if you're continually frustrated, you have chosen to remain that way

Seven steps to overcoming your frustrationHave you ever been frustrated? Probably a time or two! Frustration isn't actually a problem for most people; it's what we don't do about it that's the problem. Frustration frequently leads to worry, anger, inaction, and stress. So who needs frustration? No one. While you probably can't avoid frustration, you can do something about it.…

Listen to your anger and learn from it

There's a gap between the stimulus that causes anger and our response. We need to better assess the situation, then choose our response

Listen to your anger and learn from itEarly-20th century Australian nurse Elizabeth Kenny said, “He who angers you conquers you.” Anger is one of the most powerful human emotions and it has to be treated with tremendous care. It can be destructive but it can also help us to reach powerful insights. Though reasons for anger vary greatly from situation to situation…