Take the time to walk a mile in my shoes

Our reactions to perceptions that aren’t aligned with our own firmly-held beliefs often lead to misunderstandings and conflict

Take the time to walk a mile in my shoesWe learn early that not everyone shares our point of view. To understand a situation, we need to consider varying perspectives. There’s no inarguable truth for all situations. We build understanding from inviting multiple perspectives. Consider your emotional reaction to the idea of honesty in politics, or where to spend critical health care or education…

Too much tech use can cut into couple time, study shows

Even small digital distractions can add up to dissatisfaction with romantic relationships, say researchers

Too much tech use can cut into couple time, study showsSneaking peeks at your phone or doodling on your tablet, even just a little bit, may hurt your couple time, according to a new collaborative study involving the University of Alberta. Although technology use is common during shared time, on days when people and their romantic partners used it more feelings about leisure time and…

Study reveals insights into how we change as we age

Landmark 35-year research project yields surprising findings about happiness, relationships, generational differences and more

Study reveals insights into how we change as we ageIn recent years, there has been a growing interest in the differences between generations and the sociological forces defining their worldviews and behaviour. Stereotypes abound: the silent generation is inflexibly conventional, the baby boomers are narcissistic, generation X members are lazy. And millennials just take too long to grow up. But few of these assumptions…

Fight, flee or learn to manage stress

It may be that the impact stress has on our health has less to do with its cause and more to do with how we think about it

Fight, flee or learn to manage stressSocial science seems to have found the secret to a long and happy life. Psychologist Kelly McGonigal tells us, “Go after what creates meaning in your life and then trust yourself to handle the stress that follows.” In recent years, however, we’ve looked at stress as our enemy, seeking instead to live in complete ease.…

A new social media approach: thoughtful, informed

Social media has become immersive entertainment. But it’s also ruthless and stressful for many people

A new social media approach: thoughtful, informedEach of us has an agenda (however fleeting) to influence people around us. We want them to agree with our perspective, our angst even. Sometimes we succeed in gaining momentum with a group – raising dissenting voices into a fevered pitch that results in others (the accidental audience members) being hooked into the current melee.…

Managing boundaries without emotion or nasty payback

We’re often reluctant to establish a line when dealing with others because we don’t want to be seen as difficult. So instead we stew in our anger and resentment

Managing boundaries without emotion or nasty paybackHave you ever lived near or worked with someone who seemed to have a problem respecting personal space? About 15 years ago, a neighbour decided he wanted to build a garage. There was a tree on his property line that he didn’t want to take down, so he figured he would just appropriate needed space…

Our relationship with our stuff is mutual, says U of A researcher

Study of fashion blogger’s account of wearing the same dress every day for a year shows how much we depend on possessions

Our relationship with our stuff is mutual, says U of A researcherWhen you exclaim “I love that!” about a favourite possession, do you really mean it? A University of Alberta study based on a fashion blog is asking people to think more deeply about what they own – and whether they really need to buy more. A year of reflections in Frock Around the Clock, a blog about…

How working from home could be bad for your career

Working from home could enhance your work-life balance, but negatively impact your development and career trajectory

How working from home could be bad for your careerAs we approach three months working in pandemic lockdown, many organizations are toying with the idea of making remote work a more permanent fixture. The potential advantages are obvious: financial savings from reduced office space, reduced commuting time for employees, the ability to hire from outside the region. For many organizations, the experiment with virtual…

What has all this togetherness done to your relationship?

Besides creating an economic crisis, COVID-19 is bringing conflict into some homes. Rate (and improve) your relationship

What has all this togetherness done to your relationship?Not all of us are living happily ever after. Are you surprised? I didn’t think so! If absence makes the heart grow fonder, the opposite might also be true about too much time spent together in close quarters. A former colleague recently told me that call volumes for domestic disputes are on the rise. This…

The importance of social connection in a time of isolation

Social isolation has become a defining feature of modern Western societies and there’s a growing concern about its effects

The importance of social connection in a time of isolationWhen people look back at this pandemic, they will remember many things, but perhaps most of all they will recall the changes in social behaviour. There’s the obsessive washing of hands, not touching our face, forgoing handshakes, hoarding toilet paper, wearing masks, working from home and, of course, social distancing – or, more accurately, physical…