Time to stop feeling sorry for yourself

Victim stories negatively affect us and our attitude towards others and life, yet we all carry them around

Time to stop feeling sorry for yourselfAs much as we hate to admit it, we've probably all told victim stories. We've certainly had them told to us. It's time to banish them. The victim story is the one you auto-share that alerts everyone (including yourself) that you've been wronged by someone or some unfair situation. The telling (and retelling) confirms the need to feel…

Dealing with the deaths of close friends

As much as we may wish to avoid the obvious, there’s increasing likelihood of the death of treasured old pals, neighbours and work associates.

Dealing with the deaths of close friendsAll of us born in the baby boomer era – the period signalling the end of the Second World War – are now in our 60s or early 70s, and sailing into the zone of no return. As much as we may wish to avoid the obvious, there’s increasing likelihood of the death of treasured…

Six steps for navigating conflict effectively

Creative solutions to complex and challenging problems come from a willingness to constructively navigate civilized disagreements

Six steps for navigating conflict effectivelyConflict is natural and often unavoidable. But when emotion takes centre stage, it can lead to hostility. We've all encountered unproductive, frustrating or infuriating situations. We know how they make us feel. What's often less obvious is the degree to which nonverbal nuances contributed to the problem. Take the way our facial micro gestures (specifically around…

There is nothing scarier than our own imagination

Take your mind off automatic pilot and get it to work for you rather than against you

There is nothing scarier than our own imaginationWhen left to our own devices, we humans have the capacity to create 'worst case scenarios' that play around in our heads unchecked and often without boundaries. When this happens, it paralyzes us and prevents us from speaking up when someone hurts our feelings, springing into action on an exciting opportunity or doing what needs…

Talk is not cheap, but it can save your marriage

Resentment over wrongs, disagreements over the kids and financial worries can be breeding grounds for some of the worst adult behaviour

Talk is not cheap, but it can save your marriageThey loved each other so much. Everyone thought they were a perfect couple. Of all the couples in their circle, they definitely had the advantage, communicating so well with each other. That’s what we all thought – until they got divorced! When that perfect couple is at an impasse, why start fighting like children? Communication…

Finding short-term solutions to build long-term relationships

Susan Kandalaft of Executive Solutions talks about building a placement business on relationships and quality

Finding short-term solutions to build long-term relationshipsSusan Kandalaft is president of Executive Solutions Ltd. What is Executive Solutions and what do you do? Kandalaft: Executive Solutions is a Calgary-based, boutique staffing firm that specializes in all types and levels of positions, primarily in the office, including temporary, temp to hire, contract and permanent placements. Our searches can range from reception to…

The importance of eye contact in relationships

In the Western world, too little eye contact is interpreted as being impolite, insincere, or even dishonest

The importance of eye contact in relationshipsYou're at a business networking event and the colleague you've been having an intense conversation with begins to shift her gaze from your face to look around the room. Ever wonder why that makes you feel as if she has stopped listening? You know it's not logical. A person doesn't have to look at you…

A high-tech tool to help manage high-conflict relationships

Carrie Gour of PwrSwitch talks about helping those being harassed, stalked or abused reclaim peace of mind, a sense of security and a measure of control

A high-tech tool to help manage high-conflict relationshipsCarrie Gour is co-founder and CEO of PwrSwitch. What is PwrSwitch and what does it do? Gour: PwrSwitch is an application designed especially (though not exclusively) for anyone managing the aftermath of a high-conflict relationship, or anyone dealing with cyber-harassment or cyber-stalking. It effortlessly creates the foundation of evidence you need to file court orders,…

What can we learn from one another today?

Each of us is worthy of dignity and respect. The more we embrace this truth about ourselves, the more we can see it in our neighbours.

What can we learn from one another today?In his book Horton Hears A Who, Dr. Seuss reminds us, “A person’s a person, no matter how small.” Being mindful of this is one of the keys to finding joy and fulfilment in life. Everyone we meet, above all else, is a person. Each of us is worthy of dignity and respect. The more…

Money can’t buy happiness, yet we keep chasing it

Will more money mean we sleep better at night, spend more time with friends and family, or contribute more to society?

Money can’t buy happiness, yet we keep chasing itThere’s a story told that about a financial planner who was on holidays in Mexico. He was walking along the beach when he came to a fisherman sitting on a wharf, his feet hanging off the edge as he played guitar. “Is that your boat?” the planner asked the fisherman. “It is,” he replied. They…
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