How to move on from hurt feelings and bad situations

You have every right to choose a new path, but make sure you're not overreacting based on your own insecurity or a misinterpretation of the situation

How to move on from hurt feelings and bad situationsThere are infinite ways our feelings get hurt – and a few clear ways to deal with such circumstances. Perhaps someone expressed a thought unkindly. You found yourself reacting to a perceived slight. Maybe you spent a good deal of time working on a project only to have your name missed when the recognition was…

Stop blaming others for your unhappiness

It's time to stop nurturing helplessness in our society and start encouraging respect, collaboration and personal accountability

Stop blaming others for your unhappinessYou can hardly watch the news without seeing some report of radical, violent behaviour. Protests and uprisings are surging, fuelled by anger, ignorance, resentment and clashes of emotional need. How did we get here? Researchers say we are wired to thrive in small villages of about 150 people. The Hutterites know this and still practise…

Finding that inner harmony that leads to a full life

Congruence, a deep honesty about who you are, is immensely attractive, draws people to you and reinforces your goals and ideals

Finding that inner harmony that leads to a full lifeBeing successful has a great deal to do with having your ducks in a row – or being congruent. At a meeting recently, one of the organizers explained how networking helped him go from redundancy to a lucrative business that he loved in less than two years. I could see why: there was something about him that…

Keith Richards was wrong – the message does matter

There are many great teachers who instruct us on how to achieve true happiness and success. You're just not likely to find them in popular culture

Keith Richards was wrong – the message does matterI often reflect on where my beliefs come from. I can see they’ve changed significantly over time. As I’ve altered who I listen to, my thoughts and beliefs have changed, and I’ve changed for the better. In my teen years I was strongly influenced by popular culture. I loved the Who, the Rolling Stones, the…

Adults can behave worse than babies

A plane is no easy place to calm a crying child. Have compassion. Yelling won’t improve things. But there are ways to change the environment

Adults can behave worse than babiesMy husband spotted the situation first. Right next to him on the plane was the most adorable infant, possibly seven months old. “Oh no,” he mumbled. I smiled. He has headphones and we have grandchildren. Perhaps she would sleep the whole way. Not this time. She started fussing even before the wheels left the ground.…

Learning how to be a good friend

Human relationships are complex. But there are some simple principles you can follow to build solid friendships

Learning how to be a good friendEverybody wants to have friends. Growing up, I often heard, “If you want to have friends, you have to be a friend.” To me, that statement always left more questions than answers. I was recently reading The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens by Sean Covey with my students and I came upon the best…

Resolving your inner conflict and getting off the couch

All lasting change has to happen in the subconscious mind if you're going to get meaningful results

Resolving your inner conflict and getting off the couchChoosing new paths in life, and finding the confidence to stay on those paths, is all a matter of programming. We all promise ourselves we'll take action in areas of life, yet fail to find the inner resolve to follow through. The inner conflict can carry on for years, undermining our resourcefulness and confidence in getting new behaviours…

Self-discovery, one shovelful of snow at a time

Snow throws a lot at us. Our response to it can be seen in how we navigate the challenges of building a business, writing a book or tackling a project

Self-discovery, one shovelful of snow at a timeThe sun is shining, even if the air is still frigid, so I’ll take it. After several days of digging out my huge driveway – 100 metres, to be exact – and coping with drifting snow, even my most optimistic “Shovelling is a great full-body workout strategy” is feeling less than enthusiastic. I love the…

Why you need to be aggressively positive in business

Move forward with intent and work in a manner that enables you to succeed through your direct actions and those of your team

Why you need to be aggressively positive in businessI was 21 the summer of the accident. I was working on a farm and my boss and his family had gone to the lake. I was left with a list of chores that included clearing out a culvert on a dam that was being plugged by beavers. I thought this would be the perfect…

Turning challenges into opportunities for success

But to successfully face those challenges, you need to know yourself and the opposition you face, and be prepared to grow and adapt

Turning challenges into opportunities for successIn the classic book The Art of War, Sun Tzu teaches about far more than war. He also teaches some of the key elements of a joyful and meaningful life. “If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the…
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